tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6456007446606477169.post2843108568943549295..comments2024-03-09T20:52:49.618+00:00Comments on Four Down, Mum to Go?: Vive la differenceFourdownmumtogohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13514505371212340284noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6456007446606477169.post-52266979180960789702010-04-03T23:41:36.274+01:002010-04-03T23:41:36.274+01:00I think one of the hard things is that you don'...I think one of the hard things is that you don't really know what you're going to be like as a mother until you've got there. And then it varies through the stages. It's difficult for work to be switched on and off, or geared up and down, to fit in with how you're feeling as a mother. So it all ends up as a bit of a compromise.<br /><br />I loved being at home full-time when they were tiny, but could have done with part-time work when they were preschoolers. But I was too mired in it all by that stage to be able to think outside much. The one job I did do was a bit of a disaster, because I ended up trying to work part-time, and be a full-time mum at home too, so I just totally exhausted myself. By the time I'd worked out that I needed to let go of some of the home stuff, the job had come to an end (fixed term contract), and I felt I'd wasted an opportunity.<br /><br />What a gloomy read that is. Sorry.Iota https://www.blogger.com/profile/08507184283437057648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6456007446606477169.post-80242183012233361092010-03-24T21:19:21.970+00:002010-03-24T21:19:21.970+00:00Kelly it takes a while, I was super uptight with n...Kelly it takes a while, I was super uptight with number one!Fourdownmumtogohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13514505371212340284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6456007446606477169.post-35377877055799986202010-03-24T20:24:58.489+00:002010-03-24T20:24:58.489+00:00I wish that I could relax a bit. I am getting ther...I wish that I could relax a bit. I am getting there, I am coming to realise that a missed nap is not the end of the world, and that we are happier if he misses a nap but we have had some fun too. I am starting to realise that as much as I thought I wanted to be a SAHM I think I need a couple days at work to remember who the hell 'I' am. Will be trying to follow your example.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11848203901556742390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6456007446606477169.post-7428700248986171072010-03-24T15:21:06.300+00:002010-03-24T15:21:06.300+00:00Sorry momcat!Sorry momcat!Fourdownmumtogohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13514505371212340284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6456007446606477169.post-5637453610983375712010-03-24T15:20:25.685+00:002010-03-24T15:20:25.685+00:00Hear, hear momkat. I spend hours, days, months bea...Hear, hear momkat. I spend hours, days, months beating myself up about not being around 24/7 for my boys, but my husband regularly points out that I would be bored silly within moments and this probably wouldn't be any better for our sons.Fourdownmumtogohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13514505371212340284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6456007446606477169.post-29712860366715972762010-03-24T15:18:11.378+00:002010-03-24T15:18:11.378+00:00I wasn't a good full time mommy. I need to com...I wasn't a good full time mommy. I need to company of my own thoughts for a good deal of the day and with little voices intruding continually this wouldn't have been possible. Also I like to tell the story of my daughter two and a half years older than her brother, who when I was staying at home with my youngest said to me, "Mom when are you going to go back to work. I want to go back to aftercare so I can play with my friends". Every family is different. I was moaning to my 20 yo son recently that I wish I could stay home and be looked after now and he said to me "Mom you would be bored out of your mind after a few weeks". It is true. If I stay home, I actually feel guilty. I need to work outside the home. Its all about knowing yourself and being at peace with the person that you are.BioniKathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14160435019367425283noreply@blogger.com